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The First Book Excerpt

Posted by on November 17th, 2016 under Uncategorized • 1 Comment

It’s out!  You can order The Recipe:  Love Made Simple, right here (Below is an excerpt from page 10:) Have you ever taken the bitter pill? There is a big difference between the inevitable pain in life and optional bitterness about life. Emotional pain is specific and localized to particular events, while bitterness generalizes pain, […]

The More You Give the More You Get

Posted by on September 15th, 2016 under Uncategorized • 2 Comments

Have you noticed how some people seem to have naturally joyful hearts? Perhaps you are one of them; or perhaps you would like to be. They may not be well-off or even have easy lives.                                 Sometimes, they may even be surrounded by hardships. Freedom from trouble has nothing to do with it, because the source […]

Finding the Courage to Change

Posted by on June 16th, 2016 under Uncategorized • No Comments

In the last post, I wrote that it’s often hardest to be at our best when it matters most.   The good news, as we saw, is that we can change the old responses that come up during stress.   But, it’s easier to make such changes if you believe that you are just changing […]

Why Is It Hardest to Be Yourself When It Matters Most?

Posted by on July 29th, 2014 under Uncategorized • No Comments

Ever notice that you’re more likely to react in a way you don’t want to when you care the most about what happens? Seems unfair, doesn’t it? Let’s say you’re single and you meet someone who might really be right for you, but you aren’t being yourself. It’s a job interview for a position that […]

How to Become a Psychological Self-Healer

Posted by on May 9th, 2014 under Uncategorized • No Comments

The ability to deal with emotional pain is essential to courage, and courage is essential to having a full, free, and fantastic life. If we do not learn how to heal, we are done trying after the first time we fall. By the way, everybody falls. Yet, some people never fall in love again, after […]

How Not to Get Sidetracked

Posted by on March 28th, 2014 under Uncategorized • No Comments

My previous post (on becoming “unstoppable”) prompted one thoughtful reader to notice that becoming distracted from ones goals is a common challenge. I have been thinking about that since reading her post. A man in his 90s once wrote that, if every day is a precious opportunity when one’s last days are in view, then […]

How to Become Unstoppable

Posted by on February 6th, 2014 under Uncategorized • No Comments

Every experience you have can become useful. You can insist on this, as a promise to yourself. Enjoy the pleasure and use the pain. Everyone’s future will include both joy and sorrow, no matter what we do. Even if we make the best choices, we will become hurt sometimes. Even when we sabotage our lives, […]

If You Think You’re Bad, You’re Probably Good!

Posted by on December 20th, 2013 under Uncategorized • No Comments

Goodhearted people usually think they’re not good enough. This is not necessarily a reflection of poor self-esteem, but can instead reflect a hunger to reach their potentials. In this way, life will contain struggle one way or another, but the question becomes whether people will struggle for the right objectives. Givers and takers each think […]

Don’t Let Your Mood Boss You Around!

Posted by on November 14th, 2013 under Uncategorized • 4 Comments

People assume that we should do what we really feel like doing. Maybe this rule even seems obvious to you. Accordingly, we ask ourselves if we are “in the mood” to do this or that. This can be a very good idea, that is, if we like our current mood. Whatever you feel like doing […]

Intimate Amplification

Posted by on August 29th, 2013 under Uncategorized • No Comments

Have you ever spoken into a microphone to an audience? Especially the first time, it can feel unnatural, because the mike amplifies us, instead of our having to do it. We quickly learn to keep this amplification in mind. If we speak too loudly, our voices will become distorted, and we will hurt the ears […]