I just again attempted to write a letter to get something off my chest to my brother & found myself very quickly stuck. He wrote me over a month ago & every time I try to formulate a response, I feel like it would do more harm than good. I find myself unable to avoid getting very specific about my complaints.

 

All of this may just stir up resentments & exacerbate the conflict between us. I know that whenever I try to write him, I begin to get angry."

 

A lot of people find an important letter blocked by a rush of emotions that cloud ones thinking.  A technique that is often helpful is to write two letters.   The first is unsent, and it blasts away with all the pent up feelings.  It should be harsh.  Anything that you'd really send is too inhibited.   Then, you write the clear one, perhaps with some points from the first, but edited.  See what this gives you, and we can go from there.

 

Good luck,